Bridesmaids 101: How to Deal with a Bridezilla
That girl, the one you’ve always known to be cool, calm and collected since your campus days can turn out to be a demanding bridezilla. When she does, it’s not your time to run away. There are reasons why many women, even the ones you least expect, can turn out to be bridezillas. But who is a bridezilla anyway?
These are brides who want it all, and will do anything in the world to get it. Bridezillas make wedding vendors run for their heels because of their demanding attitude. It’s worse for the people around them like their bridesmaids, sisters, girlfriends and family but they stick around because they understand the pressure of being a bride-to-be.
What can turn you into a bridezilla?
- The desire to make everything perfect
It’s ok for a bride to want everything to be perfect on her big day. However, most women don’t even know what perfect is to them and this turns them into bridezillas.
- Lack of Support from family or in-laws
Chances are that there will be some people who will not offer their support during wedding planning. If you have to handle in-laws who are not totally psyched by the thought of you joining the family or your own family members who are not embracing the groom either, your chances of being a bridezilla increase.
- A small budget
If the bride to be can’t afford her dream wedding, she is likely to turn into a bridezilla. The pressure of fitting everything in a small budget can be overwhelming. The situation gets worse if one of her friends of relatives is getting married and has no money issues getting in her way.
- The thought of a life transformation
It’s normal to feel stressed and overwhelmed while planning a wedding partly because you are making a decision that will change your life forever. The thought of no longer being a single girl can be overwhelming to many brides-to-be.
Symptoms of a bridezilla
- Self absorbed
- A little bit crazy
Now that you understand where bridezillas are coming from, how do you deal with them?
- Be there for her, remind her that its her day and she needs to enjoy it and make sure you complement her. Simple comments like ‘you look radiant’ works wonders.
- Don’t take anything she says personally. Just smile and understand that she is under a lot of pressure. Don’t vocalize your thoughts so much just use non verbal communication like nodding or smiling.
- Listen to her. When she wants to complain about her in-laws, bridesmaids, family members and her wedding vendors just be a shoulder to cry on.
- Don’t go overboard because it is her big day. For instance, don’t take a loan for her because she insists she needs those shoes or the expensive hair. Stand your ground.
In case you have a bridezilla who is going out of control, get the girls together and talk to her. Let her know that she has crossed the line in a way that she will not feel attacked.